MEG LAUGHLIN
The mother is running toward the fence at Guantanamo, trying to
get out of Cuba with
her two toddlers. She trips and pushes her two-year-old to the
right, her three-year-old to
the left. With this seemingly inconsequential gesture, their
destinies are set.
The 2-year-old gets over the fence in the arms of a cousin and
makes it to Miami to grow up.
The 3-year-old is captured with mother and returned to her father
in Havana, where she
grows up. The mother goes to prison in Cuba for five years.
Two children. Two countries. Two opposing ideologies. Two lives
that tell, from both sides,
what the future might hold for six-year-old Elian Gonzalez --
the little boy whose fate,
after a harrowing rescue at sea, hangs between cousins in Miami
and his father in
Havana.
On that night of panic in 1969, Estrella Galvez had signed onto
a desperate plan: Along with
100 others, she and her children would ride in the bed of a huge
government truck that would
ram the fence at the U.S. Naval Station at Guantanamo and ultimately
whisk them to
freedom. But the truck crashed in a ditch, caught fire. Everyone
made a mad dash for the
fence as Cuban police ran after them. One child made it over
the fence; the other didn't.
Within a month, two-year-old Estrellita Galvez left Guantanamo
to live with her great aunt and
uncle and their five sons in a one-bedroom apartment in Hialeah.
Her three-year-old sister, Vivian Galvez, went to live with her
father, his new wife and their
baby in a rambling four-bedroom house in suburban Havana.
``I was the lucky one. I got freedom. I got opportunity,'' says Estrellita, now 32.
``That is my sister's opinion, not mine,'' says Vivian, 33.
Aunt and uncle gave little girl everything they possibly could
Estrellita Galvez -- now
Estrellita Carvajal -- was given everything her great aunt and
uncle in Hialeah could give her.
Her uncle sold vacuum cleaners door-to-door and jewelry at the
local flea market. Her aunt
worked long hours in a Hialeah textile factory, sewing suit jackets.
They sent the little girl to
Catholic school, their own sons to public school. They bought
her beautiful new
dresses, while their own sons wore hand-me-downs. They sent her
to after-school
day care while their own sons went unattended.
``Because of the circumstances that brought Estrellita to us,
we saw her as special and
wanted her to have more,'' says Lucila Rodriguez, the great aunt
who raised her.
Estrellita remembers feeling very protected and loved in her great
aunt's modest home.
She remembers the holiday pigs, the Christmas lights, the dresses
she wore to Mass,
the walking door-to-door to sell vacuum cleaners. She still calls
her great aunt
``Mother,'' her cousins ``brothers.'' (Her great uncle, whom
she calls ``Dad,'' died
a few years ago.)
``We were very poor,'' she says, ``but we had a lot of warmth.''
Estrellita remembers being questioned by psychologists, when she
was 6. Her father
had sued for custody years before and wanted her returned to
Havana. At last, the
case had made it into family court in Miami. The decision: The
child was to stay in Miami.
When she was 11, her mother, out of prison for two years, moved
to Miami and
wanted Estrellita to live with her. But the child wept for the
family she had known
for the past nine years, so her mother settled for Saturday nights
and holidays.
``I could not replace the parents she had known,'' her mother,
Estrella Nurquez,
recalls.
In high school, Estrellita became sweethearts with a Miami-Dade
college student,
Ray Carvajal, who later went to medical school in the Dominican
Republic. Her
adopted family could not afford to send her to college, but Estrellita
and Ray
married, and he became a doctor. A few years ago, Estrellita
got a nursing
degree and now works with her husband.
The Carvajals live in a large two-story house on a lake in Pembroke
Pines with
their two little boys. They have high ceilings, a huge pool,
cushy furniture and
antiques. Estrellita's mother and stepfather visit often. And
now Estrellita's sister,
Vivian, who grew up in Havana, also visits.
Vivian Galvez, whom her mother calls ``the child left behind,''
moved to Miami
when she was 27. She is amused by the suggestion that she was
``left behind.''
``In Cuba, I had a wonderful family, an excellent education --
a childhood filled with
love and opportunity,'' she says. ``How does that add up to being
left behind?''
In elementary school, she studied sound engineering. In high school
she learned
about agriculture and irrigation. She went to college and became
a civil engineer.
Both of her parents (her father and her stepmother in Cuba) were
professors at the
University of Havana, her alma mater. They both speak English
and Russian, as
well as Spanish.
Six years ago, she came to the United States as an adult to meet
her sister and
to visit her mother. She decided to stay: ``to have something
besides intellectual
satisfaction to show for what I learned in school.''
Now, she lives in a three-bedroom townhouse in Kendall with her
six-year-old son,
her husband and father-in-law. She is project director for a
civil engineering firm
that builds water and sewer plants.
``She is a superb engineer -- so smart, so creative in her thinking,''
says her boss,
Dagoberto Castillo, owner of Daca Environmental Corp.
Vivian Galvez says the combination of being returned to her father
in Havana as a
child and coming to Miami as an adult gave her the best of both
worlds: ``I got my
father, a close, loving family, and an excellent free education
in Cuba, and I got
the opportunity to make it count for something here.''
Her mother disagrees: ``Vivian doesn't fit in with us. She came too late.''
Vivian says she hopes this will change; she would like them all
to be a family. To
this end, she keeps meeting with her mother and has tried to
talk Estrellita into
writing their father. But Estrellita is reluctant, even though
her father has written
her.
Estrellita can't find the letters from her father, which she says
ask her to forget
the past. But Vivian has a pile of letters from him: ``I love
you and your son and I
also love your sister, her son and her husband,'' Gustavo Galvez
wrote in Spanish.
``It grieves me that none of you are now in my life.''
On the phone from his home in Havana this week, he says, ``The
dilemma over
the little boy Elian brings it all up again and makes me sad.''
Six years ago, when Vivian left Cuba and joined her sister and
her mother in
Miami, she did not hear from her father for three months. Then,
she got an
eight-page letter from him, neatly printed on legal paper with
a fountain pen. He
told her he had been crushed by her decision to leave Cuba. But,
he said, he had
realized something important and had come to terms with her departure.
He wrote: ``My father also lost his beloved child when I was about
your age. My
dad was an officer in Batista's Army. He was bitterly opposed
to the Revolution.
But I joined the Revolution because I wanted what we did not
have. I wanted
things to be more equal here. But you, who grew up under the
Revolution, also
want what you did not have. You want material things. It is this
way from
generation to generation. We want what our parents did not have.''
When Vivian opened the letter, a photo of her dad in a military
uniform fell out. On
the back, he'd written: ``This is who I am. I am your father.
Do not be ashamed of
me.''
As Vivian reads the end of the letter, she fights back tears.
It reminds her why
she is convinced that the battle for Elian Gonzalez should have
nothing to do with
nations. Her father's 1994 letter concludes: ``I respect your
decision to choose
your own destiny. What is most important for us is not politics.
It is that we love
one another.''
Copyright 1999 Miami Herald