Tijuana's Live-In 'Prison Angel'
American Nun Brings Hope to Inmates on Border
By Mary Jordan
Washington Post Foreign Service
TIJUANA, Mexico -- Mary Clarke was an all-American Beverly Hills beauty,
accustomed to luxury and her weekend beach
home. She had eight children before a divorce led her to tear up her
life and start again.
So as a middle-aged California mother she crossed the border into Tijuana
in the late 1970s. She traded her sparkling gowns
for the simple black habit of a Catholic nun, her English for Spanish
and her airy Los Angeles home for a musty Mexican prison
cell. For the last 25 years, Sister Antonia, as she is now known, has
been the Prison Angel of Tijuana, a tiny woman in a
spotless white veil ministering to the miserable.
Her mission is practical: She provides aspirin, eyeglasses, false teeth
and bail to thousands of petty thieves and other
impoverished convicts. She washes and prepares for burial the grotesquely
tortured bodies left in the gutters by drug gangs.
She sings in the prison chapel to lift the spirits of the down-and-out
and counsels rapists and drug traffickers as well as the
guards who carry automatic weapons.
Inside La Mesa State Penitentiary, one of the roughest prisons in Latin
America, she lives in a concrete room about 10 by 10
feet with pink walls. She keeps little more there than her English
Bible and Spanish dictionary. Long-timers recall when the
5-foot-2 woman halted a riot, walking into a hail of bullets to demand
that the shooting stop. Inmates, stunned that she would
risk her own life and let the tear gas burn away at her Windex-blue
eyes, put down their guns and jagged broken bottles.
President Vicente Fox recently met and lauded Sister Antonia, who this
year is also honored on a calendar praising women
who have made great contributions to Mexico. Another president, Ronald
Reagan, also wrote to her, in 1982, saying he was
amazed at her "devotion to a calling beyond the ordinary."
Hollywood has come knocking, too. The Californian has always turned
down the movie producers and generally has shied
away from publicity. But now, at 75, and after a quarter-century in
the prison, she consented to extensive interviews.
"I always felt for people in prison," she said. Then she laughed lightly,
as she seems to all day long, telling a visitor that maybe
some of her long-ago relatives spent time behind bars.
"It is different to live among people than it is to visit them," she
said. "I have to be here with them in the middle of the night in
case someone is stabbed, in case someone has an appendix [attack],
in case someone dies."
All four of her grandparents came from Ireland and many people in Tijuana
refer to her as the "Irish nun." She is a curiosity to
many who do not understand why anyone would willingly live in a place
known for stabbings and the smell of sewage, and who
sings "Danny Boy" and other tunes while she does.
"There is no other way to describe her. She is a saint," said the prison warden, Carlos Lugo Felix.
Lugo said her work extends to helping poorly paid police and prison
guards. Those people get little respect, in part because so
often those who carry guns in Mexico abuse their power. But Sister
Antonia embraces them, raising money for the children of
Tijuana's long list of murdered police officers and hugging the guards
as she walks about the prison. She also gives the guards
ethics classes.
Lugo said their Prison Angel should be nominated for the Nobel Peace
Prize, like Mother Teresa, who came to Tijuana in
1991 and chatted with Sister Antonia about their shared mission of
bringing dignity to the poor.
Even with her serious heart problems and her chronic shortness of breath,
Sister Antonia rises before dawn and seems to never
stop moving. She is increasingly devoting time to organizing the religious
order she recently founded. The order is specifically
for older single, divorced or widowed women who have decided to devote
their lives to the poor. It is called Servants of the
Eleventh Hour, a reference to their late start in their vocation. Seven
woman have joined.
"I can't die without giving other women, and someday men, the chance to serve as I have," she said.
Sister Carmen Dolores Hendrix, a widow with four children from Orange
County, Calif., is part of the new order, which has
the blessing of the Tijuana archdiocese. Formerly an electronics assembler
for Rockwell, she now cares for the sick in Tijuana.
Joanie Kenesie, another California widow who works alongside Sister
Antonia, said she was drawn to her obvious love of
what she is doing. Kenesie has accompanied Sister Antonia to Tijuana's
red-light district and around town. As they go,
prostitutes and former inmates wave and honk.
"They will scream out the window: 'Remember me? Look at my car. I paid for it. Are you proud of me?'. . . . They love her."
As word of her work has spread, growing numbers of lay people -- many
of them not Catholic -- have come to Tijuana from
the United States to meet her and donate to her charities, such as
a hospice for women and children with AIDS. Truckloads of
medicines and mattresses and other donated items come nearly weekly
from San Diego to the Tijuana prison. Caring for
prisoners and others in Tijuana with tuberculosis, AIDS and cancer
is also a significant part of her work.
La Mesa is vastly different from prisons in the United States: Wealthier
inmates live in relative comfort in little houses with sofas
and stereos, while the poorest inmates cannot afford a bed and so sleep
on the ground. Inmates are expected to pay for their
living expenses -- from clothes to medicine -- and so Sister Antonia
has made it her mission to help the poorest behind bars.
"I am hard on crime, but not on persons," she said. "Everyone deserves to be treated with dignity."
At a recent Mass inside the prison celebrating her 25th year of living
among the inmates, hundreds of robbers and drug
traffickers and murderers interrupted the service to give her a standing
ovation. They cheered and whooped at the little elderly
woman on a makeshift stage.
On the prison soccer field that day one inmate recalled how Sister Antonia
ran to an all-night Tijuana pharmacy to get
painkillers for him after stopping a prison medic from sewing up a
gash on his hand without anesthetic.
Inmate Jorge Perez Ruiz pulled up one leg of his jeans and exposed a
festering sore. "She paid for my medicine so this wouldn't
get worse," he said, dabbing at a year-old bullet wound. Martinez Lopez
Serrano, a convicted burglar, chimed in, saying he
was feeling miserable until Sister Antonia arranged for him to be transported
to an outside hospital for treatment for his
hepatitis.
The government has given Sister Antonia the concession to sell soft
drinks to 5,500 inmates. She has used the money to free
more than 2,000 poor first-time offenders by paying their bail or fines.
She has also paid to fix the teeth of more than 3,000
inmates. Some lose teeth in prison fights; others lose them because
they have never owned a toothbrush or known how to use
one.
"Pleasure depends on where you are, who you are with, what you are eating,"
she said. "Happiness is different. Happiness does
not depend on where you are. . . . I live in prison. And I have not
had a day of depression in 25 years. I have been upset,
angry. I have been sad. But never depressed. I have a reason for my
being."
Mary Clarke was 18 when she married, and, according to her daughter,
Kathleen Mariani, she was depressed when her
marriage of 25 years ended. But, Mariani said, her mother sold their
Los Angeles house and did more and more charity work.
Several times she went to Tijuana, a place where she increasingly felt
she could do the most good. She played records to learn
Spanish.
Mariani, who lives in San Diego, said her mother used to faint when
one of her own children needed stitches and literally
passed out at the sight of blood. "That is the greatest marvel of all,"
she said, noting the gritty work she now does. "To watch
her walk into that prison is incredible."
Sister Antonia resists any discussion of her life before she entered
the prison. But she keeps in contact with her seven living
children by phone and weekend visits. Her former husband has remarried
and the two have almost no contact.
While she often tells those she counsels that "only love can break your
heart," the brutality she has witnessed has also strained
it. Many of the inmates and police officials she counted among her
friends have been murdered. She spoke to the Tijuana police
chief the day before assassins pumped 100 bullets into his body two
years ago. She knew well the La Mesa prison warden
who was dragged from his car and executed in 1995. She comforted and
housed the mother of the man convicted in the 1994
killing of presidential candidate Luis Donaldo Colosio in Tijuana,
one of the most infamous murders in modern Mexican history.
Manuel Martinez Rivas, a prison guard who has known Sister Antonia for
12 years, said she brings calm and warmth to
Tijuana and the prison.
"She gives us a good talking to before we become guards. It's part of
our training," he said. "She asks us to be better with our
families, with our wives, to be faithful husbands, not to drink, and
to treat the prisoners well."
Guards and others who know her say she helped get rid of the torture
racks and other techniques guards used against prisoners
in years past. Even at her celebration Mass last month, she used her
few minutes at the microphone to ask for the closure of the
so-called punishment cells, where prisoners are often beaten by other
inmates.
"Little by little, I would like to think I have been an influence on
getting better treatment for the prisoners," she said. "For so
many of them, their only crime is poverty."
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